I think you can miss what you never had ... i didn't have a dad growing up.. not that i missed 'the man'... but i missed what i thought i didn't have... does that make sense? lol maybe not....
It makes perfect sense to me! And I have to agree with you on this! the only way I can see you not missing something you never had is if there is no emotional attachment to the thing/person/whatever. if THAT makes sense...
i can relate to that side of it too.. because for a long time i didn't know my dad.. i had never talked to him.. and i have meet him twice in 43 years, so not exactly an attachment there.. just a sadness of what could have been...
'Had'..v. 1.Possess, own, or hold. Past tense of have. 'Miss" verb (used with object) 1. to fail to hit or strike: to miss a target. 2. to fail to encounter, meet, catch, etc.: to miss a train. 3. to fail to take advantage of: to miss a chance.
Betcha I could manage to miss what I never had. It's a gift. ;)
Really. Don't think I missed much. I have the respect of my peers. I found true love twice. I have two great kids. I can pay my bills. I've been to many places and experienced many adventures, I have four going on five degrees, I've discovered brand new fossil species, I've so many interests being bored is impossible. What is there to miss?
I like you Kae so I hope I have not left a bitter taste in your mouth. I controlled a number of variables that made for success, but the rest was luck. I do miss things that might have been and I regret mistakes made, especially where others were involved. But I can't do anything about that. I still have to wait five or ten years to find out if I really survived cancer. That's life.
I see quotation marks ..... So don't have a clue how to respond
ReplyDeleteand.."You can't always get what you want".......
ReplyDeleteThe quotation marks mean someone, not me, said that. Do you agree, Wolfie?
ReplyDeleteCan't, or don't?
ReplyDeleteI think you can miss what you never had ... i didn't have a dad growing up.. not that i missed 'the man'... but i missed what i thought i didn't have... does that make sense? lol maybe not....
ReplyDeleteIt makes perfect sense to me! And I have to agree with you on this! the only way I can see you not missing something you never had is if there is no emotional attachment to the thing/person/whatever. if THAT makes sense...
ReplyDeleteNope I don't agree ..... But can't top surrender's response
ReplyDeleteSo three of us think that saying is not true. I'm glad I'm not alone! :)
ReplyDeleteNope .... Not alone
ReplyDeletei can relate to that side of it too.. because for a long time i didn't know my dad.. i had never talked to him.. and i have meet him twice in 43 years, so not exactly an attachment there.. just a sadness of what could have been...
ReplyDeleteThat's the emotion, overall, isn't it, in situations like these?
ReplyDeleteWell..its more that you can't know it IS. I long for things because I know they are there and sound/look amazing, therefor, I want that....
ReplyDelete'Had'..v. 1.Possess, own, or hold. Past tense of have.
ReplyDelete'Miss" verb (used with object)
1. to fail to hit or strike: to miss a target.
2. to fail to encounter, meet, catch, etc.: to miss a train.
3. to fail to take advantage of: to miss a chance.
Betcha I could manage to miss what I never had. It's a gift. ;)
I think you can....
ReplyDeleteFour, and counting...
ReplyDeleteyou sure can miss what you never had
ReplyDeleteof course you can
ReplyDeleteremember this ?
ReplyDeletehow do you say goodbye
to something that never existed
it's like giving up a craving
to something better resisted
how can you hope to be heard
when one never really conversed
it's like asking a former partner to dance
to a waltz you'd never rehearsed
how do you hide from the pain
when you know it is just for the best
it's like losing your only umbrella
in a world of unrelenting rain
how do you miss something
that you never really had
an empty feeling in the pit of your stomach
no pain involved, hurts just as bad
how do you go through the motions
day in and day out
a screaming silence,
nobody to hear you shout
how do you get over the feeling of gentle sadness
of pinning your hopes
moments of madness
on somebody undeserving
its like your prince charming
played a game
promised to but never came..........
No Mannu, I don't remember. Did you write this? it's very poignant.
ReplyDeleteSix ayes, and counting...
ReplyDeletea friend and i wrote it together...i wrote the second stanza
ReplyDeleteIt's very good! :) I think I know the feelings that must have engendered it, too!
ReplyDeleteReally. Don't think I missed much. I have the respect of my peers. I found true love twice. I have two great kids. I can pay my bills. I've been to many places and experienced many adventures, I have four going on five degrees, I've discovered brand new fossil species, I've so many interests being bored is impossible. What is there to miss?
ReplyDeleteI agree!
ReplyDeleteI learned one thing. You don't sit there and stagnate. You move your ass and put your pains behind you.
ReplyDeleteFor you, apparently nothing, Steve.
ReplyDeleteI like you Kae so I hope I have not left a bitter taste in your mouth. I controlled a number of variables that made for success, but the rest was luck. I do miss things that might have been and I regret mistakes made, especially where others were involved. But I can't do anything about that. I still have to wait five or ten years to find out if I really survived cancer. That's life.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm sure you won't miss a second of those years, because you will have had those things that fulfill you.
ReplyDeleteYou haven't left a bitter taste in my mouth.
I'm glad...though In a little while you might change your mind. I'll try to fill those years with new things. Never too late you know.
ReplyDeleteI think you can........
ReplyDeleteI never had a lot of money, but I sure would miss out to have an easier time
getting the kids to college...........
I can't always travel which I think would be a wonderful thing, so my kids miss out on
seeing more of the world....
I think there are something's you wish you could have and might miss out on.
Aint never had it Kit....:)
ReplyDeleteFranki
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Mine was an aye.
ReplyDeleteOnly if you were disagreeing, Jillian! That kind of "aye", I meant! :)
ReplyDelete0h. :)
ReplyDeletedid ya count nay's? I would like to see what the number came out to.
ReplyDeleteI'll try and find a way to get it if I see something I've never had.
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